I never use the term "TERF" because there is nothing radical or truly feminist about anyone that seeks to control the right to define who is an acceptable woman.
I 've written and talked about how sports, and my being reasonably good at them, helped me protect my identity in a time when it was near impossible to talk about it. I loved sports. I hate sports now.
I've seen this countless times in my life, I can't even tell you how often any more. It's been a constant presence in my life as far as I can remember: the notion that you can shame men using imagery of them as a women and girls.